Beaded Pens by Rakia Ari - The Movie Soul

 Each pen is $12. Comes with six free black ink refills. Special color refills come at cost. I only have one of each design left.

Beaded Pens by Rakia Ari - Tiana Collection

 Each pen is $12. Comes with six free black ink refills. Special color refills come at cost. I only have one of each design left.

Sunday's Mental Health Check-In - December 14, 2025

Sunday Check-In: Why Your Anger Can’t Cook Yams

Happy Sunday, friends.

Welcome back to our weekly Mental Health Check-In. I hope you are finding a moment of stillness today—just like the peace in today's image. Close your eyes for a second, take a deep breath, and let’s center ourselves before the week begins.

Today, I want to share a bit of wisdom that stopped me in my tracks. It’s a proverb from Nigeria (Yoruba/Igbo origins) that says:

"No matter how hot your anger is, it cannot cook yams."

Let that sink in for a minute.

We have all been there. Someone crosses a boundary, a plan falls apart, or life just feels unfair. The heat rises in your chest. You feel ready to explode. That anger feels powerful, right? It feels like energy.

But here is the reality check this proverb offers us: Heat alone doesn’t make a meal.

You can be the angriest person in the room. You can fume, you can vent, and you can radiate heat for hours. But at the end of the day, that raw emotion isn’t going to peel the vegetables, start the fire, or put dinner on the table.

Feelings vs. Function

This quote isn’t saying you aren't allowed to be angry. Your feelings are valid. Anger is a natural signal that something is wrong. But anger is just the alarm—it is not the solution.

When we stay stuck in the "heat" of the emotion, we exhaust ourselves without actually moving forward. We burn up all our energy fuming, and we have nothing left to actually fix the problem.

The Takeaway for This Week

As you move into this new week, you might encounter situations that turn up the heat. When that happens, remember the yams.

Ask yourself:

• "Is this emotion helping me solve the problem?"

• "Am I just radiating heat, or am I taking action?"

Feel the feeling, acknowledge it, and then let it pass so you can get back to the practical business of living your life. Don't let the heat consume you; use your energy to nourish yourself instead.

Wishing you a peaceful, productive week where you cook plenty of yams—and leave the unnecessary heat behind.

---

Tell me in the comments: What is one thing you are choosing not to stress about this coming week?

---

Sunday's Mental Health Check-In for December 7, 2025

 

The Fortress Within: Why Your Biggest Battle is Inside Your Head

You know those days where it feels like the world is just... coming for you? Maybe it’s a snarky comment from a coworker, a rejection letter, or just the general chaos of life throwing curveballs. It’s easy to feel like we are under siege from the outside.

But there’s this African proverb I stumbled upon recently that stopped me in my tracks:

"When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you."

It hits hard, doesn't it?

At first glance, it sounds a bit like a fortune cookie—nice to hear, but maybe a little too idealistic. But when you really sit with it, it explains almost everything about why some insults destroy us while others bounce right off.

Who is the "Enemy Within"?

We all have that voice. You know the one. It’s the narrator in your head that speaks up right before you try something new. It says things like, "You're not qualified for this," or "They’re all going to laugh at you," or "You’re just faking it."

That voice is the enemy within. It’s insecurity, imposter syndrome, and lack of self-compassion rolled into one.

Here is the brutal truth the proverb is getting at: External criticism only hurts when it agrees with something we secretly believe about ourselves.

If someone walked up to you and said, "You have purple skin and three horns," you wouldn't get offended. You’d think they were hallucinating. Why? Because you know that’s not true. There is no "enemy within" agreeing with that statement.

But if someone says, "You’re lazy" or "You aren't smart enough," and it stings? That stinging sensation is usually the enemy within opening the gate and saying, "They're right. I knew it."

Building the Walls

So, how do we stop the enemies outside from hurting us? We stop fighting them. Seriously. You can’t control what people say, or what the economy does, or the random bad luck of the universe.

Instead, we have to call a truce with ourselves.

When you cultivate self-love and confidence, you are essentially reinforcing your internal walls. It’s not about being arrogant; it’s about having a deep, quiet knowing of who you are.

When you are at peace with your flaws and confident in your strengths, external negativity hits differently. It transforms from a weapon that wounds you into just... noise.

• The Enemy Outside says: "You failed."

• The Enemy Within says: "You're a failure."

• The Friend Within (Inner Peace) says: "I tried something hard and it didn't work this time. I learned, and I'll do better next time."

The Takeaway

The next time you feel hurt by the world, take a second to pause. Ask yourself: Is this hurting because it's true, or because I’m afraid it’s true?

Work on silencing that inner critic. Be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself for messing up. Be your own strongest ally. Because once you conquer the enemy inside your own head, the rest of the world doesn't stand a chance against you.