Sunday Self-Care: The Power of Gentle Hindsight
Happy Sunday!
The end of the week always feels like a great time to take a breath and check in with ourselves. How are you really doing? Did the week rush by? Are you carrying any baggage you picked up along the way?
As we ease into this mental health moment, let's talk about a major energy drainer: self-recrimination—that nasty habit of looking back on our past actions, decisions, or missteps and absolutely tearing ourselves down.
You know the script. You remember that awkward thing you said five years ago, that job you quit, or that chance you didn't take, and the same old, harsh questions pop up: “What was I thinking?” followed by the immediate, aggressive self-critique: “I was an idiot. I should have known better.”
If you’re nodding your head right now, trust me, you are not alone. We've all been there.
Moving from Judgment to Inquiry
Here is the central idea we want to hold onto today, an idea that can fundamentally shift your relationship with your past:
Review your past with gentle eyes. Stop beating yourself up about your past. Instead examine and learn with questions, “What was I thinking?” and “What was I learning?”
That little shift from "What was I thinking?" to "What was I learning?" is revolutionary.
The first question is a judgment. It stops the conversation and places you in the defendant's chair, waiting for a harsh sentence. It assumes you had all the information and wisdom then that you have now. (Spoiler alert: You didn't.)
The second question, "What was I learning?" is an inquiry. It opens the door to curiosity, empathy, and growth. It assumes that every moment, even the messy ones, served as a classroom.
Gentle Hindsight is Honest, Not Permissive
This isn't about letting yourself off the hook entirely; it's about treating your past self with the same kindness and compassion you’d offer a dear friend.
When you look back on a mistake through the lens of learning, you can honestly identify what went wrong without defaulting to self-hatred. Maybe you learned:
You need better boundaries.
To trust your gut, even when it’s scary.
That you are more resilient than you thought.
That certain environments or people drain your energy.
When you focus on the lesson, the mistake transforms from a permanent stain on your character into a simple, valuable piece of data that informs how you live today.
Your Past Self Did the Best They Could
Remember this simple truth: Your past self was operating with the information, emotional capacity, and resilience they had at that exact moment. They didn't have the benefit of your current wisdom, which was only gained by going through that specific experience.
So, this Sunday, give yourself the ultimate gift: gentle hindsight. Close your eyes for a moment, take a deep breath, and send a wave of kindness back to the younger, less-informed version of you. Thank them for going through that so the current version of you could learn and grow.
You are not a sum of your mistakes; you are the beautiful, complex result of everything you've ever learned.
Your Sunday Check-In Challenge:
Pick one thing from the last week—or even the last year—that you’ve been mentally beating yourself up about.
Acknowledge the feeling: Recognize the disappointment or frustration without judgment.
Ask the new question: Instead of asking, "Why did I mess that up?" ask, "What was the most important thing I learned from that situation?"
Write it down: Write the lesson on a small piece of paper. Then, try to let the regret go.
Take care of yourself today. You deserve that gentle perspective.
What's one thing you're letting go of this week? Let us know below!
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